Psychology of the matrimonial relations
SEMP... We are connected with it in thousands of threads. Family everyday life, pleasures and disappointment which occasionally close people bring each other have public response and in many respects make our everyday life. In small group of the closest people, each of us lives in the world of family since childhood to extreme old age. Exactly here first of all we receive charge of vital activity, idea of happiness and wellbeing, the place in society. Only here the unique emotional and psychological atmosphere of love and attachment, harmony of intimate relations forms.
Family — one of the most complex problems at all times: and when devoted Penelope waited for the Odyssey and when Taras Bulba has not forgiven treacheries to the beloved son and when Anna Karenina has rushed under the train. In family faces real, last and future, finding genetic, related linkages.
For the last century the family at us has true stepped from one era in another. Change of economic and social structure of our society has led to creation of family of absolutely new type. The psychology of the matrimonial relations has changed. The marriage of convenience, at will of parents has given way to the marriage based on love, on voluntary consent. For spouses freedom of divorce is recognized. New position in family was reached by the woman, have sharply increased attention to children, their education, the value of emotional and spiritual communication between family members. Main for it are motives of world outlook, moral and psychological character. These changes have in a new way put many problems of joint life.
The family is the whole world difficult and not unambiguous. Look how the relations family closely intertwine with relations of production as family communication influences communication in the course of work. Therefore ability to construct the private life with the maximum advantage for society and for family is the same necessary component of active living position, as well as consciousness of the debt to society, professional calling and so on.
Still quite recently the safe family, happy matrimony were perceived as godsend, accidental prize in everyday lottery: it was lucky — rejoice, it was not lucky — suffer. Now the inaccuracy of these views is visible to us. In modern society the center of the family relations has moved from the property and economic sphere to moral and psychological.
That is why the attention to psychology of the family relations is so important now. To us, specialists, the people who are eager to get advice in difficult family situation address and write. They ask the most unexpected questions. At many of them it was not died; though at first there was love, and the pleasure has grown dim then and ineradicable smack of bitterness in relationship has appeared. Stories of one are filled with indignation, others — bewilderment: "Why so? There was love before marriage, and here the family love has not turned out? How to make that it did not leave that there were no conflicts? Whether it is possible to carry by love through all life or there is only habit?"
Especially great interest to different aspects of the matrimonial relations is shown by young people by preparation for the accession to the matrimonial union and in the first years of joint life.
Now researches of private life of the person, studying of family are made out to the independent area of knowledge. There was new word — "familistik", it is not in dictionaries and reference books yet. Soon it is necessary to master it as it has happened to "cybernetics" and "bionics". "Familistika" is engaged in studying of family. It is necessary to tell that only initial steps are taken so far, the science does not know much, only guesses much. All social mechanisms managing family life are not opened yet.
However, there are certain difficulties in studying of family which can protect the way, the rest from foreign look. The family has the right for secrecy of the relations. Let's tell more: can be, in it and the special, self-preserving it property is shown.